Everyone's got a type. Some people go for black people and some people go for white people. But then, every now and then, you crush on somebody who doesn't conform to the sort of person you usually go for. You fall for someone not because of their race, or height, but because of who they are - and sometimes their gender might come as a surprise. It's certainly not unusual to have feelings for people of a different gender from the one you normally fancy, whether it's someone you know in person or someone you see on TV or in a film, Gender isn't always the defining factor in why people find others emotionally or sexually attractive. But it can sometimes be confusing or upsetting to have these feelings when you always thought that you could clearly define your sexual orientation.
While it's totally normal to experience bi-curiosity, though, it's not always easy to know what to do about it - especially if you've got a crush on a friend, or you're surrounded by people who might not understand. Facing up to your feelings is how u might know how to deal with it.
I think it's okay to be curious and It's important to remember that there's no rush to define your sexuality. We're so used to putting tags on people that sometimes it's tempting to jump to conclusions. But our sexuality is our own business, and if things don't feel clear cut, there's no need to try and define.
Unfortunately, exploring your sexuality can still be a difficult thing, particularly in the wrong environment. "Particularly for young people, coming out can be really risky and when it goes badly can lead to bullying, domestic abuse and homelessnes. Even when it goes well in terms of getting support from friends and family, that doesn't mean the rest of the world will agree. It's not just straight society that you need to worry about, though. Just because you're experiencing these feelings doesn't mean that the gay community will welcome you with open arms. Bisexuality has a negative reputation in some sections of the gay community, and so-called 'bi-try' types may be stereotyped as untrustworthy, confused or slutty, out to sate their own lust before flitting off. Don't reinforce negative stereotypes. If you're out to explore your sexuality, beware of treating people as experiments. It might be a learning experience or just a bit of fun for you, but don't lead people on, and be aware that gay relationships can be just as complicated and emotionally charged as straight ones.
Maybe you're bisexual. Maybe you're gay. Maybe you're straight. But the important thing to remember is that it's your decision how you label yourself, if at all - and you have the right to decide in your own time. "It's OK not to know what's going on.
(C)copy written by kennie savage
